Long Distance Relationship
Long Distance Relationship
Every relationship will experience a roller coaster ride but it‘ll double the fun for those who are in a long distance relationship. There will be more ups, more downs and a spiny-humpy-bumpy obstacle. For those who are in this kind of relationship it requires great deal of patience, excellent communication, sacrifice and understanding because a lot of challenges and changes will occur for there will be constant worrying, insecurities and frustrations. More so, a lot of trials will come across when you are distant away from your love. Quarrels are hard to resolve due to distance barrier, exchange of harsh words will be present and a recurring need of warmth that your partner can only provide.
For the people involve in a long distance relationship there is a demand to maintain communication so it will still strengthen the bond. However, since you are apart from each other it is still important to stay focus and pursue your daily goal. There should be enough time to make sure that your desire to be with your partner will not interfere to achieve your tasks for each day. It demands time management for yourself, for your relationship with your partner and for your growth together. It is just that both of you are committed so absence will not make one heart grow fonder while enduring distance.
Challenges and changes are expected so it is necessary to be flexible when facing these for it will define how much you can do and how far you can go for the relationship. You should anticipate that there will be a time that one gets busier than the other or one is asleep while other is awake because of time differences. When this instances occur both of you need to work hard by warning your partner ahead of time that you will be having long working hours than usual so there will be limited time for a certain period. Be honest and devote your time to your priorities since you’re away. If you are not-so-busy person make sure that nothing will run in your mind that something is wrong, it is expected that this will going to happen so rest assured that your partner is doing his or her job only. Being understanding is the key this time around plus trust to make it work. When you trust your partner everything will be transparent there will be no more doubts and fears. Also, since your partner will be hardworking find time for yourself. Take advantage of the time get a hobby, get in shape, read books or watch movies. This is a little sacrifice on your end and it is a chance for both of you to grow as individuals. Moreover, long distance relationship gives you enough space to know yourself, to set limitation and boundaries since you’re free to do your own things. After a while you will never notice that the days and nights will never be longer than before and you will notice that you will found yourself holding each other hands again.
On a personal note, as a part of the community of LDR’s all over the world I want to share my own understanding about the feeling that most of the people in this kind of relationship will understand. I know there are struggles that most of you are experiancing I hope that somehow I gave you realization about what you can do about the distance barrier because I know that there’s a part of you that can relate to some of what I said.
lovely arrangement!
an eye catcher!
few words to describe the beauty of the flowers :)
Nakatutuwa ang buong siglang pagbati ng It’s Showtime family sa mga taong nagdidiwang sa pagbunga nga magagandang bulaklak sa lungsod ng Baguio na tinatawag na “Panagbenga Festival”. Maliban sa mga float inaabangan talaga ang mga artistang mga nakasakay dito at hindi naman nabigo ang mga tao sa mga Kapamilyang nagdatingan. Personal akong natutuwa sa sigla ni Vice Ganda para aliwin ang mga tao talaga naman nakilala siya at humihiyaw na kahit napakalayo pa lang ng float ng ABS-CBN. Nagulat nga ako sa sigaw ng nasa likod ko ang pogi mo Vice sana akin ka na lang:) Meron pa yong ang puti pala ni Vice sabay mura dapt ganun! tapos meron din yung si Vice makinis pala oh buti hnd tulad ni Chocolate! hala may ganun paglingon ko sa kanya nagtakip ng mukha:))
at Burnham Park, Baguio City where a lot of Landscapes from different artists is showcased.
come and visit!
witness the grandeur float parade! :)
~dos mil onse~
-AFTER NEW YEAR-
False expectation disappointed me so much because after New Year my grandfather passed away. We are so much happy spending New Year’s Day with him not knowing it is his last. There are different foods we brought in his house so we can share the blessings we have for him and for Lola Eve. He requested the foods we brought like chocolate cake I bought for him then fruit salad. Also, Tita Min brought “Kilawing kambing” and rice cakes. There is also lechon from Tita Gem. All of us brought our own share of food so everyone can taste the delicacies we cook especially for this occasion.
The family is almost complete only one is missing and that is his only son. Yes, we do not celebrate holidays but we just want to be happy spending the long weekend at our grandparent’s house. There is much pain when we lost Lolo Rogel because I practically grow up with him. I always spend my weekends in his house. Next to my parents I always have his opinion whenever I will have a major decision in my life. I may not be the favorite apo but I know for sure that he equally love all his grand children. He also my fan, everyone can attest to it because he pushes me to be good whenever I join auditions etc. He is always proud when I have projects. I will definitely miss his presence but I always believe that deep in my heart he will stay.
This year will still continue it may be incomplete but we have to move on. Now, I will strive harder so I can help my parents. Things will change for sure especially that Lolo is gone. My parents never oblige me but I know my responsibility and I will do all the possible things so we can start our own business and get away with the shadow of my selfish uncle. Yes, selfish! I do not want to elaborate more about this but he really is!
-MID YEAR-
It’s been a struggle for me because my relationship with Arbie is still the same. What we had last year continues this year. It is undefined relationship or may be that is what they call open relationship. I realized that I love him so much and I cannot leave him so it’s okay even though it is not. It is the irony of our relationship. We know we love each other but we do not know what we have and we still choose to be together. There are problems we encounter along the way but we are still holding each other so we can be stronger.
There are difficulties I have to face alone. This is my own battle and I have to be independent especially that my family is also depending on me. This time I know my strength is my family so I will be firm for them. My mother had a successful surgery in her gull bladder. The doctor needs to take out the gull stones so it will not affect the urinary system of Mom. I am so proud that I was the one who took care all of the expenses for the operation. As the eldest sibling I am so proud that I was able to help.
-LAST QUARTER OF THE YEAR-
I am planning to resign because there is a calling that I need to answer. Yes, I want different job that will give me fulfillment, a work that will enhance my skill and can support my talent. I really wanted to work out of town so I will learn to be independent. Hopefully by the end of the year I will be ready to be out from the safe zone.
Before anything else I will take advantage of all the benefits I have since I rendered almost three years in the company. I decided to let my dad have his endo-colonoscopy in the hospital so we can determine why he always have stomach ache. Again, by the help of my health card from the company I was able to shoulder the expenses.
It is so sad that before the year ends another love one passed away. We are still mourning because of Lolo Rogel’s death. Then, Lola Nora followed the light as well. I know this happened so Lola will no longer experience the pain. It is just so sad that it happened in a single year. Kahlil Gibran said, When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. It is true, whenever I miss Lolo Rogel and Lola Nora I know they will always be in my heart. The memories that I shared with them will always be a treasure.
Later this year Arbie and I discussed about our differences and the challenges we had in our relationship. We learned to embrace our imperfections and decided to be in a relationship again. He is now working miles away from me and what we always have is faith, understanding and trust. I hope that this will continue and prosper for the coming year. I pray for everyone’s good health and abundant blessing for 2012!
GOODBYE 2010
There is so much optimism before 2011 started. Dreams are made believing that “Eleven” is our number—- it is the number me and Arbie started our relationship this year (November 11, 2010). I am hoping that our 2011 will be fruitful even though this time we are in a humpy-bumpy-rocky-road-relationship. There is so much hope for this year that we will continue for the coming year. Cross fingers for all of the goals we have plus perseverance to attain all of it.
I may be too much possessive because of too much love and not knowing I am also too much submissive that I already created my world just for the two of us. For this reason, I wanted to start the year without depending too much to someone or something to make me happy, do not want to wallow anymore because of too much pain from my unsuccessful first relationship and do not want to sulk because of unfulfilled dreams. I want to find the missing piece of myself so I can have my head straight and go back to the track once again. I do not know if there is still another chance for me and Arbie but one this is for sure we will remain good friends for next year and for the coming years. He will still be a part of my life.
I will look forward to the opportunities I will have for the coming year. It will be a way of diverting instead of sulking. I want to focus on my career so I can accomplish my goal. I want to save money so I can buy my own car and if there will be much blessing I want to start a new business and build my own house. Forgetting the bad memories and keeping the good ones in my heart. I will close my eyes and pray for a good start.
The longer you stay SINGLE, the longer you serve as a PUBLIC TEMPTATION and a THREAT to someone’s relationship.
STATUS
for months my status is still undefined
people call it confused
I call is pending happiness:)
next to you
These are two different songs with a same title, songs that made me realize a lot of things—things that changed, things that opened my eyes and things that made me believe. The first song by Chris Brown Ft. Justin Bieber, its a song from my ex’s FB page.. Wow! admitted EX! yeah you read it right! I assume that’s for me, No I demand it is! LOL:)) we’ll everything happens for a reason it is a cliche but for now I will believe that’s life. Going back, the song gives hope to something that is half— half hearted and half meant. I heard this when he let me listen to it, the lyrics made me feel like I am the only one. It is like an indirect way of saying I will always be here for you because nothing will ever come between us ‘coz I’m standing next to you, this is what he usually tell me and assure me before. The time I heard this song is the time when I almost overcome my insecurieties and fears like the childishness everyone is talking about. Yes, I am immature but I am doing my best to surpass all the kid stuff so I can prove to him that I can deal with his level of maturity. After all hearsays was confirmed then he denied and I believd him nevertheless it ended as well. I fear this that is why we are always together even though we no longer in a realtionship but it is now the time to grow apart. Another cliche if in a right time we are destined it will happen. If not I guess maybe we are meant to be with someone else. If that happens we will soon realize why we did not work. Now, it is proven that promises are made to be broken and one thing I learned from this experience is for me not to give all the shot because the last shot might kill me. A lot of changes is anticipated and realization made me feel I’m so weak. What I believed for killed my faith. Moving on, the next song by Jordin Sparks made me realize my situation for almost ten months of my relationship with him call it crazy-pathetic-fool but everyone who had this experience will say its because of LOVE. He is my first and I will not regret the things I made to show my love for him. The courage I have everytime I call him to say good night or to ask waht is he doin? or the time I went to his house just to see him for a couple of hours is different. This is the song I play all the time now to remind me that there is a girl doing her best to be a lady for the man she loves.
NEXT TO YOU by Chris Brown Ft. Justin Bieber
(Chris brown)
You’ve got that smile
That only heaven can make
I pray to god everyday
That you keep that smile
(Yeah)
(Justin bieber)
You are my dream (you are my dream)
There’s not a thing I wont do
I’ll give my life up for you
Cuz you are my dream
(Together)
And baby everything that I have is yours
You will never go cold or hungry
I’ll be there when you’re insecure
Let you know that your always lovely girl
Cuz you are the only thing that I got right now
Chrous:
One day when the sky is falling
I’ll be standing right next to you (right next to you)
Nothing will ever come between us
Cuz I’ll be standing right next to you (right next to you)
Verse 2:
(Chris brown)
You have my child
You would make my life complete
Just to have your eyes or your name
(Justin bieber)
Thatd be mine forever
(Together)
Baby everything that I have is yours
You will never go cold or hungry
I’ll be there when you’re insecure
Let you know that your always lovely girl
Cuz you are the only thing that I got right now
Chrous:
One day when the sky is falling
I’ll be standing right next to you (right next to you)
Nothing will ever come between us
I’ll be standing right next to you (right next to you)
Verse 3:
(Chris brown)
Made for one another
Me and you ( and you and you and you)
(Justin bieber)
And I have no fear
And we will make it through
(Chris brown)
One day when the sky is falling
I’ll be standing right next to you
Chrous:
One day when the sky is falling
I’ll be standing right next to you (right next to you)
Nothing will ever come between us
I’ll be standing right next to you (right next to you)
(Justin Bieber)
Stand by my side
(Together)
My baby My baby
(Chris brown)
You’ve got that smile
That only heaven can make
(Justin Bieber)
I pray to god everyday
(Together)
To keep you forever
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NEXT TO YOU by Jordin Sparks
Two ‘o clock and I wish that I was sleeping
You’re in my head like a song on the radio
All I know is that I got to get next to you
Yeah I got to get next to you
Sitting here turning minutes into hours
To find the nerve just to call you on the telephone
You don’t know that I got to get next to you
[Chorus]
Maybe were friends
Maybe were more
Maybe it’s just my imagination
But I see you stare just a little too long
And it makes me start to wonder
So baby call me crazy
But I think you feel it too
Maybe I, Maybe I
Just got to get next to you
I asked around and I heard that you were talking
Told my girl that you thought I was out of your league
What a fool, I got to get next to you, whoa
Yeah it’s five in the morning and I can’t go to sleep
‘Cause I wish, yeah I wish that you knew what you mean to me
Baby let’s get together and end this mystery, oh
[Chorus]
Maybe were friends
Maybe were more
Maybe it’s just my imagination
But I see you stare just a little too long
And it makes me start to wonder
So baby call me crazy
But I think you feel it too
Maybe I, Maybe I
Just got to get next to you
Whatcha got to say? Whatcha got to do?
How ya get the one you want to want to get next to you?
Whatcha got to say? Whatcha got to do?
How ya get the one you want to want to get next to you?
Whatcha got to say? Whatcha got to do?
How ya get the one you want to want to get next to you?
Whatcha got to say? Whatcha got to do?
How ya get the one you want to want to get next to you?
Yeah, yeah, to want to get next to you
[Chorus]
Maybe were friends
Maybe were more
Maybe it’s just my imagination
But I see you stare just a little too long
And it makes me start to wonder
So baby call me crazy
But I think you feel it too
Baby call me crazy
But I know you feel it too
Maybe I, Maybe I
Just got to get next to you
Yeah, yeah, yeah
I got to get next to you
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